Too Much Positivity?

Happy Monday! I’m always interested in keeping my life as positive as possible. I’m a “self actualization, speaking things into existence” kinda gal. I created this blog partly because I want to add to the positive spaces in the world. Scrolling through Instagram (if you don’t know I’m an Instagram feen) and watching YouTube videos (I watch more YouTube videos than I watch television), I noticed my feed and how some posts were super inspirational and some were full of shade (so many strong opinions about a doobie wrap *shrugs*). During one of the YouTube videos, this woman discussed how she doesn’t like to listen to music that degrades women. Surprisingly enough that’s not something you commonly hear from a woman in her 20s. Those two things in tandem made me think about how often I hear about surrounding yourself with positivity and how often I hear people claim they are doing this. But what does this really look like?

What if I stopped listening to violent, sexist, and/or broken-hearted music? Stopped reading gossip blog comment sections? I find the blog posts aren’t actually that bad but the comment sections are borderline vicious. Stopped watching ratchet reality tv? Unfollowed or hid everyone who posted things I deemed to be negative on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram? Does this really make a life altering difference or is this just going to free up a bunch of extra time and maybe force me to use my time more productively? I think the latter which I guess is not such a bad thing.

I also have a theory that a little negativity makes you relatable. Maybe that is a copout but bear with me. A lot of modern-day pop culture involves some form of negativity. Did you hear about the (insert big news tragedy of the week)? Did you see (insert violent, catty, or scary tv show) last night? Heard (insert top 100 artist)’s new song? Nope, nope, and nope. Feeling out the loop yet? I would of course like to cut some more negativity out my life even if its small but where does it end? Also at what point does this simply become hiding?

I always see people saying they are trying to have a positive life but I’m interested to find out what that means to different people. I’m always thinking about ways of adding more positivity in my life but I also don’t believe in making my life any more difficult than it is. I would love to hear everyone’s opinion on this since I know they will vary.

 

Turn Up 11.13

 So why are you still not listening to Dom Kennedy? Also, aren’t Cali accents epic?

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3zpOexelM3Q&noredirect=1

Isn’t this the prettiest Celine you’ve ever seen?

Happy Veteran’s Day! My bag obsession continues. I have to say I have mixed feelings about the style of Celine luggage. Some days I think they are cute, other days they seem just too trendy to be so expensive. However, this one definitely has to be my favorite. The only place I’ve seen it is here.

Five Stacks on a Makeup Bag?

As of late I’ve become obsessed with designer handbags. I dunno where I’ve been as far as handbags go but apparently I’ve been sleep.
I’ve always been into fashion but I’ve never really been into brand names. It’s always been if I like it, I buy it. Things started to change when I got sick of buying things that lasted less than a year particularly handbags and shoes. Who has time for that? It than becomes a task to shop because now I have to look for something to replace what is now trash instead of shopping for something that expands my wardrobe. I had this experience one too many times with my handbags and I was done. No more $30 handbags when I have to repurchase one every couple of months.
Well along my exploration of designer bags, I discovered YouTube reviews of Michael Kors, Louis Vuitton, Prada, Coach, Balenciaga, etc. It was all she wrote. I literally can spend hours and looking at reviews for different bags. Then I discovered different purse forums and the obsession became even worse.

I think these bags go a little beyond just buying bags that last longer than 3 months. I’ve seen Gucci bags that are older than me still in good condition. I can’t really decide how much is too much to spend on a bag. When I was a kid I used to think being able to afford something meant that you had enough money in the bank to go and buy it. Well as an adult, I have enough money in the bank to buy certain things and I still feel like I can’t afford them. Does it make sense to buy a $2000 bag if it will empty out your savings? Not for me. I still have not found my limit which basically means I’m sitting here watching Youtube videos until I decide. What can I say? Impulse is not my thing. However, that does not stop me from drooling over these babies.

I know one day, I will own a bag from one of these brands but today is not it. So really how much is too much to spend on a bag?

October Links

Hey!
So I have not done one of these in a while so why not share the love. Here are some of my favorite links this month. It’s always so hard to choose these because I skim then read read so many blogs.

http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2013/10/professionally-reinvent-economy-getting-better/

Great advice. I feel like no matter how many times someone says multiple streams of income. We never listen until we have to.

http://www.purseblog.com/in-the-news/barneys-accused-profiling-black-woman-bought-celine-bag-profiled.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+purseblog+%28PurseBlog%29

I am really glad purseblog covered this. Reading the 100s of comments of people who were discriminated against while shopping (of all races, ages, genders, and classes) was both sad and comforting. It’s unfortunate that almost everyone who has bought a luxury item has at least one experience of being treated unfairly.  Many people think of Fashion as something silly and unimportant but it is big global business. Many of these experiences do not compare to being arrested but I believe these microagressions make way for the macros. Also one commenter stated that when she is followed around the store, she makes the SAs (Sales Associates) carry her bag,s since they are following her anyway. Genius!

http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2013/10/nyc-judge-rules-unpaid-interns-sue-sexual-harassment-theyre-employees/

I swear the way interns are treated should be illegal…Oh wait…

http://www.brooklynblonde.com/2013/10/made-for-walkin.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+brooklynblonde%2FrIRI+%28Brooklyn+Blonde%29

Gimme these boots!

Turn Up 10.28 Free by Natalia Kills

I’m freeeeee!!
This song is not new at all but I’m not sure everyone knows it yet. I frankly don’t get how you could not like this song. It’s catchy and it has social commentary, think Kanye West’s New Slaves but you can dance to it. There is an official video but I figure if you’re just listening to Natalia Kills the video might be a lil harsh, best to check out the sound first.

I Hope That’s Not What She Meant…

I feel like its been so long since I’ve posted. Ive been spending a lot of time at work which kind of makes the subject matter of this post ironic.

Anyway lets get into it. I hate dislike this quote.

No offense to Lady Gaga but every time I see this ish followed by some girl saying ” yup that’s right” I let out a deep sigh.

This quote reeks of a lack of balance. I’m so over the idea of women having to choose between fulfilling careers and love, “u.e.o.n.o.” I know we have further to go as women but I believe that we have come far enough to have a career and a spouse, if that’s what we want. But let’s get to the part that really bugs me.

A career will never wake up and say it doesn’t love you? Really? Recession what? Careers tell people they don’t love them anymore everyday. People get fired and career paths disappear all of the time because of outsourcing and new technology.

Sure your significant other can wake up one day and say, “I don’t love you.” That happens all the time as well. Nothing in life is a given. However, I’m not sure if the odds between you losing your job and losing your significant other are really that drastically different especially today.

I also dislike the automatic association between dreams and careers. The things I dream of aren’t just career wise, that is a part of it but definitely not the whole picture. It scares me that sometimes I feel like we have become a bunch of careers and accomplishments. I dream of being successful in love ( not just romantic love) and work.

I’ve seen both sides of the coin, people abandoned by their careers, where the only person they had was their significant other and that person made sure they had a roof over their head and food to eat. I’ve also seen people go through break-ups and the only comfort they could find was “getting money” until they got through their rough patch. I’m not mad at either one. I just think if you have to choose between the two, you should just choose which one is more important to you, the one that seems more stable, and will continue to be in the near future. Hopefully you and I will never have to choose.

 

Quote of the Day 9.8.13

So I’m feeling a little more upbeat than my previous post so here is an inspiring quote to keep it going. I’m determined to make my time on Instagram productive one way or another.

“Making a big life change is pretty scary. But, know what’s even scarier? Regret.” -Instagram Wisdom

Mo’ Millennial, Mo’ Problems

It’s been a rough two days but I’m hanging in there. Yesterday was another one for the “trapped in the life that doesn’t quite fit” files. It was supposed go be Friday and feel celebratory as such…not so much.
I really wish someone would have warned me about post-college life. Maybe people did and I just can’t recall or didn’t listen.
I think I should have spent more time in high school and college figuring myself out instead of just going with the flow and getting good grades.

As important as getting good grades are, it won’t save you. I’m learning that now. You might want to have a little more focus upon graduating then I did. Saying I want to follow this career and live this lifestyle is not enough. You might need to know how you’re going do it, that its going to be harder to do than going to school was, and a different way to do it in case the first plan doesn’t work.

I think it’s hard to know that I’m going in the right direction with little progress. I wonder should I be doing something different or should I turn around n do something else.

I try to remember that I’m young and that this time period is just another form of education but less than ideal living circumstances, ratchet commuting situations, and no promise that you will be able to bring in any more money than you are currently bringing in is kinda distracting from the whole “I’m young and on my grind paying my dues.” I occasionally feel like wtf is this supposed to teach me?
Faith I guess, faith in myself, faith in God.
Gratitude I guess. I can’t help but think ambitious people struggle with gratitude. It’s a tough balance between wanting more and being grateful for what you have.

Welp, I’m doing my best to use my faith to propel my ambition and gratitude to keep me grounded (corny, I know).

Turn Up 9.4.13

I hope you all had a good holiday weekend and spent a little time thinking about the true meaning of the holiday (or looking it up). I decided that there is no need to just stick to Turn Ups on Tuesday why not any day of the week?!

Anyway today’s song to turn up is by Ariana Grande, since her album just came out. Her music makes me feeling a teenage again probably because most of it was recorded when she was one.  Here goes a song by her that you might not have heard yet and is pretty catchy.

 

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