I feel like its been so long since I’ve posted. Ive been spending a lot of time at work which kind of makes the subject matter of this post ironic.
Anyway lets get into it. I
hate dislike this quote.
No offense to Lady Gaga but every time I see this ish followed by some girl saying ” yup that’s right” I let out a deep sigh.
This quote reeks of a lack of balance. I’m so over the idea of women having to choose between fulfilling careers and love, “u.e.o.n.o.” I know we have further to go as women but I believe that we have come far enough to have a career and a spouse, if that’s what we want. But let’s get to the part that really bugs me.
A career will never wake up and say it doesn’t love you? Really? Recession what? Careers tell people they don’t love them anymore everyday. People get fired and career paths disappear all of the time because of outsourcing and new technology.
Sure your significant other can wake up one day and say, “I don’t love you.” That happens all the time as well. Nothing in life is a given. However, I’m not sure if the odds between you losing your job and losing your significant other are really that drastically different especially today.
I also dislike the automatic association between dreams and careers. The things I dream of aren’t just career wise, that is a part of it but definitely not the whole picture. It scares me that sometimes I feel like we have become a bunch of careers and accomplishments. I dream of being successful in love ( not just romantic love) and work.
I’ve seen both sides of the coin, people abandoned by their careers, where the only person they had was their significant other and that person made sure they had a roof over their head and food to eat. I’ve also seen people go through break-ups and the only comfort they could find was “getting money” until they got through their rough patch. I’m not mad at either one. I just think if you have to choose between the two, you should just choose which one is more important to you, the one that seems more stable, and will continue to be in the near future. Hopefully you and I will never have to choose.